Cant It be easy ?

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Lately I have been wondering why some equations are hard to solve. I am an average mathematician but there is one equation which am failing to solve . This equation of Love is not easy, I guess other mathematicians would agree with me . Just like BODMAS It has both Multiplication , addition , subtraction and many more . I am just wondering why Cant the equation be as easy as; A loves B (B loves A) = Happily in a relationship .


Instead its like A Loves B , but B loves C who is not in love with B .C is in love with D but D loves Y and X loves A ..arggggghhhhhh what can I say ? Where are the cupids at ? have they been given a pink slip so that they shouldnt carry on with their job ?Or maybe thats how the equation of love is supposed to be .

Mistakes and fear

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We fear mistakes more than anything else
Mistakes bring on ridicule
Mistakes make our abilities disabilities
Mistakes expose the unsure, frail and scared person hiding within

Can anyone brag about living a mistake free life ?
Can anyone boast about being perfect ?
Can anyone talk about never being a failure ?

Fear of making mistakes holds you back from achieving higher goals
Fear of making mistakes blankets you in a world of darkness
Unfortunately too many joys go undiscovered

'If you do not make mistakes , youre not working on hard enough problems
And thats a big mistake' ~F. Wikzek

*Fafa 2010*


Telling him my feelings

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Did I say that I have fallen in love ?I hope so because its such a wonderful feeling.Lately I have been asking my close and trusted friends how I can go about it .Asimbuyu gave me an article about it from the magazine Awake which was published in 2004 .It helped me because I have found some of the answers I needed so I decided to do the review about the article I read .

Here is the thing , I am in a situation which I bet most girls are into . You know when you like a guy which you maybe met at school , in church or a a social gathering. You know you Like him and you think he likes you too ,maybe you think hes shy or you think he doesnt know you like him .The thing is you want the guy to be more than a friend to you .Most of the times the questions which arise are: Who should be the one to declare that he or she is in love -The boy or the girl ?How can I tell him how I feel about him ?
I have talked to a few guys and asked them how they would feel if a girl told them shes in love with them .Most of them said it is not a big deal if a girl told them she liked them .According to the article , it is ok for a woman to tell a man or show him that she likes him . It gave the biblical example of Ruth the widow and how she she showed that she loved Boaz.Fortunately God blessed her efforts and they were worth it (Ruth 3:1-13) .

Like most African girls I have been raised up to believe that it is a guy who asks a girl out , so its hard for me to do that because that concept is stuck in my head.So it comes to this , family and community is what can influence on whether a girl can tell a guy how she feels about him or not ."Opening up about your feeling to someone who may not feel the same way is delicate ,risky matter "Awake.According to the article the best way to avoid unnecessary embarrassment or emotional devastation if the persons response is negative is to follow the following biblical principles :

1.ACT WITH SHREWDNESS
It is easy for most of us to get caught in day dreams. Some times we even imagine our wedding day or something more . However, while reveries of this sort may be enjoyable, they are illusions. They can produce overwhelming desires that you have no means of satisfying.

Daydreams can also distort your judgment and in the end make you emotional because sometimes they make us think far from reality .Proverbs 14:15 says: “The shrewd one considers his steps.” Being shrewd means having common sense and sound judgment. How can you be shrewd in the realm of romance?
(a)Get to know him because you can not love someone you dont know. Try to ask people about his character and behaviour and not forgetting engaging in simple conversations with him .
(b)Avoid revealing your feeling prematurely because he will be surprised as of why you have spontaneously liked him .

2.THE IMPRESSION YOU MAKE
As they always say first impression matters . Sometimes we act out of line because we think that is what attracted the guy to you . It is proper for you to be yourself in a proper way . sometimes we girls think if we overdress or under dress the guy will like us more , most of the times that is wrong . If a guy did not like in make up what can make him like you in make up ?

The way we speak reveals a great deal .When engaging in a conversation with him never try to make a conversation more interesting by making up some lies . Some girls try to act like the person they like in older for him to be interested but sometimes that doesnt work out because his qualities that youre trying to copy might the qualities he hates in himself.The Bible also encourages young Christians to be “an example ... in speaking.” (1Timothy 4:12)

3.IF THERE IS NO RESPONSE
What, though, if in spite of such modest efforts, no romantic spark is ignited? Perhaps several weeks—or months—have gone by and he still expresses no interest in you. Should you simply brush that off as shyness? I for instance am a person of impatience , sometimes I expect a guy to react soon towards my actions . We sometimes forget that the guy might be observing us before making the next move, therefore impatience is a character a girl needs to prevent.

You may feel that you have seen evidence of romantic interest. You feel that he is simply too slow about expressing it and that he would respond to a little encouragement. Perhaps. But if you decide to take the initiative, you must realize that this is risky. You should give a lot of thought to not only what you will say but also what might be the right time to say it.

You may decide, for example, that to indicate that you welcome his attention would be better than blurting out that you are “in love.” In a relaxed and appropriate setting, you could simply say that you would like to know him better. Don’t worry if your expressions seem a little clumsy.

I am trying to act like a lady but these questions arise;Does he like me too ?What if he says no ?How can i tell him ?Well we shall see how it goes because every experience is a teacher .
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