On Love
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We all need human connection .We all want that feeling of being needed , loved , cherished and the whole package . Most of us are on a journey , a holy grail in search of true love . In the past few years I have tried to understand what love really is but to be honest I have not really come to that conclusion of what love between a man and a woman is . Don't get me wrong here , it doesn't mean that I haven't been in love or loved someone or that is what I thought I was doing .
Love is a four letter word that has many definitions . According to the Oxford dictionary , Love is defined as : a strong feeling of affection . Wikipedia which is peoples favourite encyclopedia these days defines love as : a variety of different feelings , states and attitudes that ranges from interpersonal affection or pleasure . It can refer to an emotion of strong attraction and personal attachment . Ok , let me focus on the second definition of love , an emotion of strong attraction and personal attachment .
The main question that most of us will never understand is what makes us get attracted to that person ? We are all unique in some way , our physique , character , attitude but what makes one person prefer and get attracted to another person? I cant answer that too , I guess it is a puzzle that we are all trying to solve . Most of the times we get attracted by the persons looks and then the character comes later , first impression does matter when it comes to human connection .
Its so cliche how one person can walk into our lives and change the way we view things . One person can affect our emotions , the way we feel , the way we react . It only takes one person to make us feel different . Sometimes we have different thing that we like but then in the end we end up liking things the other person likes . When the person is not around , you miss them and make conversations in your head which you wish you had if they were around . When it comes to tackling a problem , we try to think how they would think and deal with it .I define that as love .
I have come to learn that love is not about being content and having someone who makes you happy all the time . That is what the media and romantic novels have succeeded implanting in our heads. Love is not easy , when I find or have my Mr. Darsy that doesn't mean that the story continues with Mr. Darsy doing everything that he can to cherish me , make me happy what not ! No! That is where people go wrong , finding a person to build a relationship with means that both of you should play that game . I read a post about a certain blogger who said 'If you find a partner and fall inlove with them with the aim of them filling that empty space , or making you happy and satisfying all your needs then Love is not for you !' I couldn't agree more . Love is about you finding that person who has something in common with you , you build a relationship by working hard to make them happy , feel secure . You do everything it takes to bring a smile on their face , you sacrifice some things so that the other person should not be hurt , you involve them in your decision making process , you pray for them and try to help them when they are down . I think that is what love is all about .
Roses can come sometimes ,who doesn't love gifts? You can go for walks , picnics and candle light dinner . Those are just spices that you are supposed to add in the bowl of love . You can not really understand a person sometimes , the best thing to do is embrace on their strength and try to help them on their weaknesses . We all have imperfections , that is what makes us human but love helps us embrace ,and learn more about them . Love is not about who is better than the other ,you just let all the cards on the table for the other person to see . When you are in love you let the other person into your world and there is nothing to hide . The bible according to 1 John 4:18 says 'There is no FEAR in love , but perfect love casts out fear ...' I wont go till the end of the verse but there you have it , why should you be afraid when you are in love?
As we know , love is not an easy thing to understand since our love stories are different but work hard and do whatever it takes because Love is not a fight but its worth fighting for . Get your boxing gloves and face it , do not be afraid .
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