My dreams

Where have the strong men who we read in novels about or watched in movies gone to? Where are men who are not afraid to conquer or face anything that is on their way?You may  wonder where all these questions are coming from.I was watching a movie on Television which was about relationships. Well that is one of the hot topics people my age discuss  isn't it?

Is it that we ladies have a check list which is not ideal for any guy around and then we sit down , complain that the men who approach us are not on our checklist ?Well it depends on an individual  , I can not speak based on other people's experience . For some women , they try as much as they can to find a man whose qualities tick their list . If they meet a particular guy whose qualities  do not  tick half of their list then they walk away before its too late .Can I blame such women? No I can not because most of the women who are serious about dating a man whose are ticking on their checklist have been through hell and back with men who messed them up yet the men were not up to their standards . So they decided to Sit down  and create a list thanks to the guys which broke their hearts. 

Most of the times when it comes to moving on  and healing from a break up , men take time to heal when they have been hurt by a woman  they loved. Hold it !That's society  talking right there. I have been raised in a society which has taught me that men are weak creatures,men are like children .
Let's start with weak shall we. In situations  where a man has faced a major heart break and has resorted into sleeping and playing with many women . Some people tend to understand and pitty such men for their actions because they say a man's heart break is more painful than a woman's  heartbreak. Come on!That is a lame excuse.  What about us women ? Were  we created with different hearts ? No way! God Sees us the same in His eyes  .It's time we stop making excuses for men that they are fragile. 
Men are weak !Once a guy has had a heart break it's hard for him to move on and open up to someone else after healing.  Women on the other hand heal and let go ,we try to hope for a better next relationship.
Men are  scared  of commitment  once someone breaks their tiny heart. Come on guys !How many hearts have have you broken and how many girls have cried for you but still had the power to move on and like someone else .

According to the society where I have been raised ,older women usually  advise me that men are like kids . They need to be nurtured and raised . Can  you raise a man ? If his mother did not manage then who are you to raise a man . Why do we waste time making excuses for men and doing.things that they can do because we think they are men . The bible clearly indicates our roles as woman and men in the society ! Why should we then switch roles and do things that men are supposed to do for us ? I think it's time we change our perspective and expect men to be men ,not Boys!Time to start considering strong men who pursue us
. I  know you are out there and it's just a matter of time  .