My dreams

Dear 18 year  old me .
It might be strange that you are getting this letter from me. Don't worry  am here not to criticise  or Judge  you . I am here to share my experience with  you because you are special and this womens day has just reminded  me that now you are a woman, a rare breed , a gem.

First of all , I want to tell you how proud  I am of you and how happy I am with the woman you have become. You are able to take care of yourself and living independently  .You are virtuous  , strong , courageous and modest. It is not easy for someone  to be  a continent away from her family and be able to take care of themselves without adult  supervision . At your age most teenagers think they have made it in life , they  start binge drinking , smoking weed and taking drugs or do some things which makes them think they would look "cool" .Remember , to every action there  is always a reaction dont make decisions whose consequences  will come and haunt you some day. Teenage  pregnancy  is like a fashion , thumbs up for taking care of yourself  and not being a teen mum.

I am so happy that you have pursued with medical school against all odds. I know things are still hard for you but with hard work  and determination  you will make it .If you work hard and do a lot of clinical practise you will graduate from medical  school with flying  colours .There are so many things that you are learning  right now in medical school which  you may think are useless  for your field but know  that knowledge  is never wasted . I know you will make it in the medical world because your are smart , determined  and driven . You will make a great doctor and people will be lucky to be treated by you .

I want to give you a bit of advice about relationships . Most guys will come with a motive  to  use your body,some will come with an intention  of trying  to establish a relationship  with you . Please be on your guard , your body is a temple and its precious. Some people might tell you that a guy who is a bookworm or who is focused on his faith is boring  . Trust me , the boring ones are the keepers, they are safe .The problem with us girls most of the times  is running after guys who have swag , are popular and all over the  place .Sweety popularity and swag attracts girls from all walks of life and that leads to unnecessary competition   which leads to heartache. I dont want  you to be in many experimental  relationships which will end  up making you loose sight of what love really is . If a guy approaches you dont be overly  excited unless he ticks all boxes on your checklist . As a virtuous  woman  you should have a checklist of what you want  in a man , Pray and ask God to guide  you so that He can reveal things that you need to know .God will give you a Boaz and save you from many Judases . If  a guy breaks your heart , dont worry it is not the end of the world  . It will sting like hell ,  you will have to cry.Its okay to cry because in those tears you will learn some mistakes you made and those tears will make you stronger and help you strategise.Dont cry  for someone who breaks your heart because it means God is saving you from worst heartaches .

Some of the things or people  that you think are of  importance  now will not make sense in 8 years to come . Some of the friends that you have now will be strangers in the future  and some strangers will be like family  to you. People say money changes  peoples attitudes but I believe that Money just magnifies peoples hidden characters. Keep friends who pray for you and have your back closer and watch out for friends who will give you bad advice  . Remember advice is there for one to either take it or leave it . Be there for people when they need you , You might never know who will come to your rescue   some day .

Lastly , Remember God loves you so much and He has great things instore  for you .The road will not be all that smooth , it will be bumpy with a lot of diversions but trust Him and all things will work out perfectly  for your own good . Some prayers will look like they are taking long to be answered, don't loose hope because Gods timing is not your timing . Some answers will come in days  , some in months , others in years   but remember His timing  is perfect and He makes things beautiful  in His own  time  . Pray hard and play hard  and work hard  , Love people  and dont sweat the small stuff.

Love 26 year old me .