My dreams

Sometimes we are afraid of the future . The thing about the future is that it is full of mysteries  and puzzles . What we do today will affect our decision and our action in future . Right now I am burried in my books and notes studying for my state exams . A few months ago I was so happy that this long journey is finally coming to end . A journey which has taken me through ups and downs of medical school.Battling cold winters and hot summers in a foreign country a thousand miles away from home .Now when I come to think of it , I am scared . I dont know what the future holds , will I be good enough ? Will I make it to the top ? How many times will I fall ? Will patients entrust me with their lives ?

So many questions that are in my mind . These past 6 years have groomed me into the person I am right now , and they will still reflect on the kind of doctor that I will be . I feel like a goldfish in an ocean , the ocean is big and full of bigger , meaner and faster fish . How can I make it on my own ? I must surely make some friends who will help me through this journey . Lucky enough I have made some  friends who give insight of what it will be like out there .

Last week a very good friend of mine told me that how I act , dress and speak reflects on my profession . All these will make people to either admire, despise or trust me . When I heard it at first  took it as one of those critising acts that he always does on me . When I sat down and digested what he said it actually made sense . I am going to the real world , I am not a big little girl anymore.I can not live with the moto that I should not care what people will say because if I act wild it will come back to me in some way  .I am going out in the world where I will come across people from different walks of life and I have to be ready for the unexpected .

Happy times that will make me love my job will come , so will tough times . What will I do when I am faced  with a tough situation ? Should I sit down , complain and regret why I chose medicine ? No! I will need to stand up,dust myself up and keep moving ! As day to write my final state examinations approach , I will be filled with so many questions , fears . But well Why should I worry about tomorrow ? Tomorrow has its own problems , right now I just have to study more , revise and dig deeper . It wont be an easy road but it will be one step closer to me having that pamphlet and reading the Hypocratic Oath .

Lately I have seen a lot of my friends posting statuses on social network about their impending nuptials , engagement dates . It seems like everyone these days is either getting engaged or getting married . Well I think I have just reached that age where engagements and weddings are the centre of most discussions . Whenever I sit down and talk to my friends the topic of  weddings and the whole shebang comes up .When I am at home , my mum and aunties talk about it too , I guess I am in that circle now .But hey what else can people talk about after all most of us are done with school and some are even working . Marriage is just the next step after finishing college and getting a job .

Some of  my friends are meeting  guys in 3-6 months down the line they are planning on tying a knot . Oh come on! 6 months ? Is that really enough time to know someone and be satisfied enough to spend the rest of your life with them ? I do not think so . In my opinion 6 months is not enough time to learn about someone and know their true colours to marry them . Where is that Marriage is sacred belief people? It can not take  months for you to totally know someone  because studies have shown that the first 3 months in a relationship are called the honeymoon months . During the 3 months we all hide our nasty sides and only display our pleasant characters to please the person that we are dating .So if the first 3 months are the ones we are hiding our true character , is 3 months enough to really get to know someone and get married to them ?

 I am no expert in love and marriage because I have never gotten married  , but I think most girls are doing this for the society . Getting married because the society says you have reached the ripe age to get married and bear children. Aside from the society our parents sometimes want us to get married so that they should earn that respect parents whose children have gotten married earn . They want to walk proudly with the sense that they raised us right enough to get married .

It is every girl's dream to one day wear that white ball gown and walk down the aisle and officially be Mrs. X .To have that wonderful reception where people will dance for you and shower you with gifts , we all want that no matter how choosy we can be sometimes ..A wise woman once told me that marriage is not about the day you will say "I do" and have that big fat reception , or  about two people rolling in bed legally .Marriage starts  after that wonderful reception has taken place , after all your friends and relatives have wished you the best and left . Thats where the real marriage starts!

Most people say that it is better to get married to your best friend , nowadays I actually agree with that . The person you are with is supposed to be your lover and best friend . Someone you have known for a while , someone who knows your inside and out and will never judge you for the silly mistakes that you have made . The day You will walk down the aisle and say "Till death do us part " you have to really say it from the bottom of your heart . That " I do" means that you have accepted the person for who he is and you will live with that for the rest of you life . Do not marry someone with an intention of changing them because people do not really change , Only God can change someone . Some people are getting divorced 1 year down the line because they say that the person that they got married to is not the same anymore . If you never took some time to get to know someone and accept them for who they are then you will truly marry the wrong person .

 Ladies let us not get married to someone because every Stella , Sarah and Diana are getting married . Do not just do it like Nike ! Let God guide you and show you the way so that one day you should not sit down and ask yourself why you made that mistake of marrying him . Lets take a look at our parents , some have been married for more than 30 years , if you ask them they will tell you that it has not been an easy road but God guided them and kept them strong . Do not let the society be the centre of your relationship , let God be the centre of it , let Him be the third cord to your rope.Look around and ask the wise people out there . Dont say 'Ill just do it ! I will settle the rest as we go forward" .Do not get married because it is in fashion .