My dreams

Lately I have seen a lot of my friends posting statuses on social network about their impending nuptials , engagement dates . It seems like everyone these days is either getting engaged or getting married . Well I think I have just reached that age where engagements and weddings are the centre of most discussions . Whenever I sit down and talk to my friends the topic of  weddings and the whole shebang comes up .When I am at home , my mum and aunties talk about it too , I guess I am in that circle now .But hey what else can people talk about after all most of us are done with school and some are even working . Marriage is just the next step after finishing college and getting a job .

Some of  my friends are meeting  guys in 3-6 months down the line they are planning on tying a knot . Oh come on! 6 months ? Is that really enough time to know someone and be satisfied enough to spend the rest of your life with them ? I do not think so . In my opinion 6 months is not enough time to learn about someone and know their true colours to marry them . Where is that Marriage is sacred belief people? It can not take  months for you to totally know someone  because studies have shown that the first 3 months in a relationship are called the honeymoon months . During the 3 months we all hide our nasty sides and only display our pleasant characters to please the person that we are dating .So if the first 3 months are the ones we are hiding our true character , is 3 months enough to really get to know someone and get married to them ?

 I am no expert in love and marriage because I have never gotten married  , but I think most girls are doing this for the society . Getting married because the society says you have reached the ripe age to get married and bear children. Aside from the society our parents sometimes want us to get married so that they should earn that respect parents whose children have gotten married earn . They want to walk proudly with the sense that they raised us right enough to get married .

It is every girl's dream to one day wear that white ball gown and walk down the aisle and officially be Mrs. X .To have that wonderful reception where people will dance for you and shower you with gifts , we all want that no matter how choosy we can be sometimes ..A wise woman once told me that marriage is not about the day you will say "I do" and have that big fat reception , or  about two people rolling in bed legally .Marriage starts  after that wonderful reception has taken place , after all your friends and relatives have wished you the best and left . Thats where the real marriage starts!

Most people say that it is better to get married to your best friend , nowadays I actually agree with that . The person you are with is supposed to be your lover and best friend . Someone you have known for a while , someone who knows your inside and out and will never judge you for the silly mistakes that you have made . The day You will walk down the aisle and say "Till death do us part " you have to really say it from the bottom of your heart . That " I do" means that you have accepted the person for who he is and you will live with that for the rest of you life . Do not marry someone with an intention of changing them because people do not really change , Only God can change someone . Some people are getting divorced 1 year down the line because they say that the person that they got married to is not the same anymore . If you never took some time to get to know someone and accept them for who they are then you will truly marry the wrong person .

 Ladies let us not get married to someone because every Stella , Sarah and Diana are getting married . Do not just do it like Nike ! Let God guide you and show you the way so that one day you should not sit down and ask yourself why you made that mistake of marrying him . Lets take a look at our parents , some have been married for more than 30 years , if you ask them they will tell you that it has not been an easy road but God guided them and kept them strong . Do not let the society be the centre of your relationship , let God be the centre of it , let Him be the third cord to your rope.Look around and ask the wise people out there . Dont say 'Ill just do it ! I will settle the rest as we go forward" .Do not get married because it is in fashion .