My dreams

People always say that in life we have to compromise  when it comes to looking for a life partner . They continue  with the  famous saying that we can't always get what we want but at the end we get what we need .I don't totally agree with that ,why settle for less when the best is out there ?

Most of my girls say they need a man .I don't need a mere  man , I need a goddamn warrior !Why should I end up with a mere man when I know that there are many warriors out there ? I want the father of my children to be a hero , to be someone who people will look up to .My man among other men will be like a finest apple tree in an Orchard  ! My checklist might seem like it's out of this world but it really isn't. 

Some people would ask me what  I mean by warrior. According to Wikipedia a warrior can be defined as someone who shows or has shown great vigour , courage or aggressiveness in athletics,keep that picture in mind .My warrior is an imagination  of those strong muscular men in the Spartan times who carried a shield and had heavy armoury . My imagination is wild right ?

My own version of a warrior is a strong ,courageous man with characteristics  of a D.I.V.A . Yes! I said it , diva!Now you might think this like a combination  of a man who is strong ,built but he's also wearing tutu .No ! D.I.V.A  is an abbreviation  of what I would like to see in a suitable partner.

D~DETERMINED .
A man must be determined  to do the right things ,be reliable and highly respected  in the society . Determined to achieve his goals in life , to push beyond his limits .Determined  to challenge me by pushing me to do better , I like men who challenge and encourage  me ,don't get it twisted there is a difference between a control freak , a critic and a leader .
To be a leader and take charge in handling  any difficult situation in our relationship .To be determined enough   to face obstacles and solve problems  with me,he's my partner  and best friend remember?He must be able to lean on me  and need my help in times of problems ,he might  be strong but he will need me at times  .He must be determined enough to  form a strong relationship between my future mother in law  and me ,something  which some men are not willing to do.

I~INTELLIGENT
A warrior must be intelligent , I don't mean that he must have a very high I.Q like Albert Einstein . Intelligence  is obtained from reading books ,attending mentorship programmes and researching.Intelligent  men are attractive, I don't want a Jhonny  Bravo who is strong but as dumb as a blonde.
He must be intelligent enough to start peeling layer by layer of my ideas as he penetrates deep  into my head ,making love to my  thoughts as I conceive a brilliant  plan . I want a man who is active  when we are having a conversation such that it must be productive ,brain shaking and intriguing.A man who reads books with me and has a lot of entrepreneurship ideas with long term and short  term goals .An intelligent man makes plans for 5-10 years to come, he invests and takes risks .Honey if you have all these qualities then you have my attention !

V~VIRTUOUS
We all want a partner who has virtues .No one wants a man who misbehaves everywhere he goes like he was not raised in a good home. What makes a man virtuous? I believe that a man virtues are  obtained from having a good relationship with God and knowledge of the Bible.  A virtuous man will treat you according what the bible  says .He will love and respect you according to the biblical concept.He will love you like Solomon in the Songs of Solomon,romantic isn't it ?
Your warrior should pray with you when you have a problem or when something good has happened . When a man is deep rooted in the bible and has a good relationship with God ,he won't go about chasing Jezebels and mistreating you.He will be your spiritual prayer  warrior and partner .He will wear a full armour of God which will contain faith,righteousness ,truth and some accessories like perserverance, patience, kindness to help him through his fight .Your warrior  must try to help you create a good relationship with your spiritual  inlaw who happens to be God . Who doesn't want that in a man ?

A~AGGRESSIVE
Warning :This is not about physical  or emotional violence !
When I say aggressive I mean that my warrior must guard and protect our relationship  aggressively in a positive way .He will not let my past mistakes or our past arguments determine the state of our relationship.  Love should not keep record of wrong according to the book Corinthians.  I will make mistakes now and again but it will require his patience,forgiveness and understanding  to maintain  stability of our relationship. He has to fight for me! I am his woman ,his side kick and his number one fan .If people out there are busy tarnishing my image and making up stories about me which are toxic he must stand up for me as I would stand up for him if the tables turned.

Mere men do not possess such qualities but warriors who have undergone training ,with lots of experience and have passed through fire and rain do .I repeat ! I need a goddamn warrior  not a mere man !